Words that at this time of loss of my marriage, I am unable to say. Thank you. Wow thank you for putting into words the way I am feeling and bringing me a lot of comfort knowing that I am not alone in the way I will always feel for my ex. I am surrendering through the pain with the help of the abundance of joy she brought into our lives all the while trying to look up so the tears don't fall down. I will always love you my goddess and my angel. Your words are so helpful!!!! I am in my crawling stage and yes I have not given up on love. I need to be careful with who I open my heart to. My relationship is over I have spent 3 days now secretly grieving I know the words need to spill out yet I know I have yet to hear myself say it.
My loss feels equal to the way I loved which was with all of my heart all of me. I'm left feeling let down but at the same time graceful for having had the ability to truly love after all I have experienced in a past relationship. This one will end but my love will go on for him and I will be happy and life will go on off that I'm sure Love and continue to love whoever is lucky enough to receive that love and then let it slip through their fingers must live with that.
I now give myself permission to not take on guilt for how this will impact on them. I wanted this relationship to work and take comfort in knowing I gave it my all x.
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Dear Nathan, You may not ever read this, but I couldn't let this go without sharing it with you These are my words exactly, but I did not write it. Im dedicating it to NayNay. The man who I will always adore. This was so beautifull. It's 5. Another sleepless night spent in circular thought, trying not to imagine my lady with her new man, trying not to hate the her for the way things are now and the seemingly unending pain of love betrayed. It's been two weeks of hell and then I find your beautiful words of compassion and kindness like a light in the dark.
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Though it goes against all I thought love is, I have to forgive and move on. There were beautiful times and as badly as it ended, losing a friend and companion, showing compassion will aid the healing process. So now to hopefully move forward as a better person, without bitterness and in time ready to love again. I dearly hope you have found peace and love since writing this. Best wishes, Pat. I was just wondering how you are feeling now about the break up?
Are you getting over it? Is the pain still unbearable? Just wanted an update. If you are better, what are somethings you did or are doing to help? This is beautiful I'm currently going through a separation. I was with my partner for 18 years, my high school sweetheart and I'm desperately trying to move forward.
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Your words touched my heart. Thank you for them.
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Andre, I am in your situation and I need to know - a little bit more than a year later - how you are doing? I feel as if I am unable to breathe and that I just want to die. I need to know in what space you are in at the moment, and the journey you took to get there. The end of a relationship, and finally reaching the acceptance stage, can take a long time depending on many factors ones support system, seeking help from outside sources such as a professional therapist, less formal faith-based counseling of ones choice, group therapy, reading self-help books on relationships, etc. TRUE healing can take years.
I ended a relationship over 30 years ago. I've learned, the HARD way, that true healing depends on ones reaction to the ending of a relationhip! Only after doing this will one finally find the happiness and peace they've been desperately searching for in other people and relationships!!! But yes, acceptance can take a long time. It can be very traumatic and should be considered as such by ALL, especially those involved in physical and mental health!!
Well said my mum went into a home on xmas Eve and my dad moved in with me and my soon to be ex already going through the loss of my mum not been in the family and having to let others take on the role of caring for my mum I continued to stay strong. I have had issues at work which are still unresolved and in all of this I managed to throw a wonderful family party at my house for my soon to be ex. That evening he snapped verbally at my 79 year old father its not the first time he has been verbally abusive. And this is why its over I can't live my life hoping he will stop and I'm sad because I truly loved him.
Your words have helped put my feelings into perspective and I'm bloody proud off myself for continuing to love unconditionally xx.
Thank you so much for what you said. Your comment was over three years now.
I don't know if you will still be able to read this though. But you are very very right that we should regain the control that we have given to others. They wouldn't really care about our feelings. They were just there when they need us, so who would be there when we are weak? In my search of the literature, I found no research that discredited Dr. Kubler-Ross' stages of grief. If you know of any that specifically discredit her, please let me know. Many have noted that Dr. Kubler-Ross' stages have not been proven by research, but I could find none that actually discredited her.
There are individual accounts of disagreement with the stages of grief theory, but the disagreement is with the stage or phase theory, not the specific categories of affect-states one may or may not experience. I should also say that this is a post from me as a professional clinical psychologist and that Psychology Today allows for many different viewpoints. This does not mean they promote the different viewpoints, they just allow them to be published.
Your issue is with me and not Psychology Today. Read the works of Dr. George Bonnano and this book: Konigsberg, Ruth Davis. The Truth About Grief. There is plenty of data that proves that grief does not follow stages or steps. Perhaps you just don't know about it. Actually, I do. But, again, the issues addressed are with the proposed stages. I am in complete agreement that stage or phase theory is questionable. What, to my knowledge, has not been discredited are her descriptions of the different affect states or feelings experienced with grief- which what I was intending to highlight in this post.
Whether or not they happen in stages is debatable and subjective! Thanks for your comment! It has been proven that grief does not have stages and that most grievers do not experience denial at all. As a professional in this field you should know this. Discredited by research? I personally have been through a painful break-up. I went through all of these stages. I completely agree with this article.
1. Resist entering into a critical mindset.
I'm not sure what research says, but I know for me, it was like a death. It still hurts sometimes. Add to that 5 prior years of being unhappy. I'm living it every day and recently realized that I'm experiencing the stages of grieving: Denial for years , Bargaining recently , definite depression ongoing , and anger!
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I also experienced it when my dad died. I've seen it happen to others. This site has been very helpful for me, as I'm sure it's been to others! Hang in there Cheryl , same with me 19 years of marriage, and about 30 days so far, I'm on the depression phase now, it's better than the anger phase.
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